|Posted by anonymous on December 16, 2018 at 2:25 PM|
Congratulations! You’re Engaged!
You’ve chosen to be married. Whether you are planning a big celebration of your love, or a more intimate and casual wedding, there are some first steps you should consider….
One of you asked, the other said, “Yes!” There is no rule that says that you have to tell everyone right away…you may take a few days to be excited together before sharing your news. When are ready to tell everyone, let your families in on the news first (in person is best), and then tell your besties. Once your nearest and dearest have been let in on your news, feel free to post away on social media!
2. Insure Your Ring
Make sure you talk to an insurance agent about coverage in case your ring or its stones ever need to be repaired or replaced. First, get an appraisal by a certified independent gemologist; most jewelers will provide this service upon purchase and make sure you understand all the terms of the policy. Find out whether you are covered if the ring is lost, stolen, or damaged, what stipulations there are, if any, and how long the claims process takes. You might be able to add a jewelry rider to your existing homeowner's or renter's policy; if not, set up a separate policy. (ref. Martha Stewart weddings)
3. Dollars and Sense
It may feel a less than romantic to begin your planning by looking at your budget, but you can’t make any decisions until you’ve established what you can spend. Decide together as to what your priorities are, do a little research, and come up with a number you are comfortable with. You then can play with how you want to use that money creatively. Remember, not everything costs money. Some of the best memories of your day will be how it felt, not what it looked like.
4. What’s your Vision?
There are as many different ways to celebrate the beginning of your life together as you can dream of. Feel free to think outside of the conventional box. Even if you are set on a formal event in a ballroom, you can play with the time of year, or time of day to help your budget. Think about options like a a cocktail reception rather than a plated meal. There are also many unconventional venues in and around Winnipeg that you may not have considered as a wedding venue.
Part and parcel to this stage of planning is a rough idea of your guest list, as that number has a real impact on your budget and affect your choice of venue.
5. Speaking of venues….
Although it may seem counter-intuitive, you should look for your venue before you set the date, especially if you have your heart set on a particular space. Check out similar options depending on your vision. Don’t rule out meeting with venues you hadn’t considered…it is amazing what the right décor can do! Once you find a venue that checks off your boxes, prepare to set the date and nail down the vendors that you really want to hire.
6. Vendor Love
There are so many talented people in the Winnipeg Wedding Industry. The best of these book a year or more in advance. At the top of your list should be wedding planners, photographers, caterers, and officiants (that’s me!). Do your research; experience, professionalism and the ability to create and deliver quality product are important. Also, make sure you are meeting with registered businesses: someone who can be accountable for the products/service they offer.
Although planning your wedding can be stressful, it should be exciting and fun! You and your partner have some decisions to make in the first few weeks of planning. Tackle them as a team and keep in mind that both of you should have input into what you want for your big day.
|Posted by anonymous on June 12, 2011 at 5:20 PM|
One of the questions I am asked most frequently is, “Why did you become a Marriage Commissioner?” To be honest, the reasons were, at first purely selfish; I have always love weddings! When I was younger, I was part of a large family and it seemed that there was always a wedding being talked of and planned for. The photo albums of my childhood are punctuated by these festivities: brides-to-be festooned with paper plate hatscovered in bows, bridesmaids in pastel dresses, beaming grooms in ruffled shirts. As I entered young adulthood,the brides and grooms were my friends and colleagues, and then I, too, was collecting Brides magazines and planning for my future. For a while we were attending the weddings of younger cousins and few friends, but then,all at once it seemed, the wedding bells stopped ringing. I had to become content with watching at a distance, catching the odd celebrity wedding in the news, and eventually succumbing to reality television series. Many of the weddings I watched were so different from the traditional wedding I had had years ago, and I was moved by the intimacy and ingenuity of these celebrations. When I remarked on this to my husband one evening, he replied, “You know, with your background in English and drama, you should somehow figure out a way to be involved in creating wedding services for people. “
I am not sure why I had never seriously considered it before that moment. I had toyed with becoming a marriage commissioner once years ago when a friend was having trouble finding someone to marry her and her fiancé. I had all of the paperwork ready, but hadn’t followed through and when the fiancé’s uncle stepped up to perform the service, I let the moment pass. My husband’s comments had given me new resolve, however, and within a short time I successfully completed the necessary steps and gained my license.
Becoming a Marriage Commissioner is one of the most fulfilling things I have done in my adult life. I absolutely love meeting and working with couples, planning for and officiating at their wedding ceremonies. I enjoy hearing their stories and helping them choose readings and vows that help them to share their very public commitment to one another in a meaningful way. I enjoy the process when we create something that is wholly their own, or simply want to try a new twist on a traditional ceremony. It is most fun when a bride and groom want to incorporate cultural aspects into their services.
And the weddings! From small, intimate weddings on my back deck overlooking the Red River to extravagant affairs, each of the weddings I have had the pleasure to officiate have been occasions of such joy and hope, happy tears and laughter. It has been an honour and privilege to have been a part of each couples’ special day.